What is a boundary?
- A boundary is a set limit or territory.
What kinds of boundaries are there?
- Healthy: These boundaries put walls up to wrong relationships, ungodly behaviors and temptations, and from being stepped on by others. Healthy boundaries keep you out of trouble and focused on what is godly and right.
- Unhealthy: This includes seclusion/isolation that leads to loneliness, depression and possibly being taken advantage of. These are not godly boundaries, and so you end up opening doors to the enemy.
What are the benefits of healthy boundaries?
- Respect from Others
- Personal Space
- Peace of Mind
- Stress-free life
- Spiritual Blessings
- Stronger relationship with God
How do I place healthy boundaries in my life?
- You simply must submit yourself to the will of God. His plans are higher than your plans for your life. Ask Him for forgive you for putting up unhealthy boundaries against Him. Then ask the Lord to help you establish healthy boundaries against the world and all that is ungodly. Start reading His Word and keep meditating on scripture throughout the day to keep evil out of your mind and heart.
- Don’t just read the scriptures, but live by them. A godly lifestyle will keep you out of unrighteousness and keep you in the Kingdom of God’s dear Son always.
Prayer to Establish Healthy Boundaries
Dear Lord Jesus,
I humbly come before you now, laying myself down at Your feet. Lord, forgive me of my sins and cleanse me of all ungodliness. I put on Your robe of righteousness right now, Jesus. I surrender myself to Your will and plans for my life.
Forgive me if I have put up any unhealthy boundaries, ultimately keeping myself from You, Lord. I want to serve You wholeheartedly. Help me to remove the bad boundaries and put up healthy ones. I draw a bloodline around my heart and mind. Help me to steer far from evil and temptations. Give me Your spirit of divine wisdom and discernment to stray from all that is ungodly. Keep me on the path of righteousness for Your name’s sake.
I put walls up right now between myself and the kingdom of darkness. I put myself under Your authority, Jesus. The enemy has no control over my life. I want all that You have for me, Lord. In Jesus’ mighty name. Amen.
Scriptures Concerning Healthy Boundaries
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
1 Corinthians 7:13
But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.
Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.
“All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.”
Put limits for the people around the mountain and tell them, ‘Be careful that you do not approach the mountain or touch the foot of it. Whoever touches the mountain is to be put to death.
“Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself.”
“Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.”
“How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stand in the path of sinners, nor sit in the seat of scoffers!”
2 Timothy 2:16
“But avoid worldly and empty chatter, for it will lead to further ungodliness.”
1 Timothy 4:7
“But have nothing to do with worldly fables fit only for old women on the other hand, discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness.”
1 Timothy 6:20-21
“O Timothy, guard what has been entrusted to you, avoiding worldly and empty chatter and the opposing arguments of what is falsely called “knowledge”– which some have professed and thus gone astray from the faith Grace be with you.”
2 Peter 3:3-4
“Know this first of all, that in the last days mockers will come with their mocking, following after their own lusts, and saying, ‘Where is the promise of His coming? For ever since the fathers fell asleep, all continues just as it was from the beginning of creation.’”
“Then they will call on me, but I will not answer; They will seek me diligently but they will not find me, because they hated knowledge and did not choose the fear of the LORD. “They would not accept my counsel, they spurned all my reproof. So they shall eat of the fruit of their own way And be satiated with their own devices. “For the waywardness of the naive will kill them, And the complacency of fools will destroy them. “But he who listens to me shall live securely and will be at ease from the dread of evil.”
“And God spoke all these words, saying: ‘I am the LORD your God…
[ONE]: ‘You shall have no other gods before Me.’
[TWO]: ‘You shall not make for yourself a carved image–any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.’
[THREE]: ‘You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain.’
[FOUR]: ‘Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.’
[FIVE]: ‘Honor your father and your mother.’
[SIX]: ‘You shall not murder.’
[SEVEN]: ‘You shall not commit adultery.’
[EIGHT]: ‘You shall not steal.’
[NINE]: ‘You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.’
[TEN]: ‘You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s.’