Signs of Harboring Unforgiveness
- Feelings of Bitterness
- Anger / Rage
- Constant Complaining
- Addictions (Drugs, Alcohol)
- Never progressing in life
- Slandering / Gossip
- Feelings of Jealousy
- Frustration toward specific people
- Hearing specific people’s names bothers you
Steps to Forgiveness in Christ
- Acknowledge that You Need to Forgive
- Submit to God and His Word
- Make the Decision to Forgive
- Declare Forgiveness Aloud
- Ask God to Help You Show Grace
Prayer of Forgiveness
Dear Lord Jesus,
I come before You humbly recognizing that I need to forgive. Lord, I repent wholeheartedly for being unforgiving toward others and myself. Forgive me for carrying bitterness and pride. I submit to You and Your Word which says that I need to forgive others—and myself—as you forgive me.
Jesus, I make the decision to forgive _________________ (Name your offenders and their specific offenses toward you). I wholeheartedly forgive all those who have used, hurt, abandoned, rejected, molested, and neglected me in the name of Jesus Christ. I forgive them—and myself—just as You constantly forgive me of my sins against You. Help me to fully forgive others through Your supernatural grace, Jesus. I declare complete forgiveness right now over my offenders and myself. I choose to bless ____________________ (Name the people you are forgiving again) today, so that they would someday come to know You more. Thank You, Lord. In the name of Jesus. Amen.
Scriptures About Unforgiveness
The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant (Matthew 18:21-35)
21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”
22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.
23 “Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. 25 Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.
26 “At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ 27 The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.
28 “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.
29 “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’
30 “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31 When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened.
32 “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33 Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34 In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.
35 “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”
“Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root rises up to cause trouble and defile many.”
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.
For we know him who said, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” and again, “The Lord will judge his people.”
For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.