Overcoming Shame and Self-Contempt

What is shame?

It is a toxic state of self -hatred and self- contempt.

 

The cause?

  • Abuse
  • Abandonment
  • Rejection
  • Neglect
  • Dysfunctional Family System

 

Guilt and shame go hand-in-hand and may even arise from the same experiences.

 

Guilt says:    I did something wrong or bad (a behavior).

Shame says: I am bad at my core (state of being).

 

Guilt says, I made a mistake or I sinned (an action we regret).

 Shame says, I am a mistake (state of being).

 

We may have a legitimate reason to feel guilt, BUT NEVER SHAME.

 

There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. Romans 8:23

 

If we have sinned:

  • Morally
  • Sexually
  • Stolen
  • Cheated
  • Lied
  • Mistreated someone
  • Unforgiveness

Then we will probably feel guilt, which is meant to lead us to repentance.

 

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23

 

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

 

 Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. James 5:16

 

Gift of Confession and Repentance

 

Antidote: The blood of Jesus, who died for our sins, mistakes and short comings. Praise the Lord!

 

 

So why do so many people still continue to feel shame and condemnation?

 

  • Shame and guilt: That is when our shame and at times, guilt, is not reality-based but lie-based.

 

  • Core lie-based belief: The Bible calls it a Stronghold (2 Corinthians 10:3-5).

 

The Problem: Our state of being.

 

The Root: Core foundational lie-based beliefs. We live and react from our core lie-based beliefs.

 

For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. Proverbs 23:7

 

The Solution: Supernatural weapons of warfare: a Rhema Word. Having the Lord communicate to the lie directly in the memory, in the experiential part of the mind, where the lie is rooted.

 

Our lie-based beliefs are stored and housed in our core foundational memories.

 

Memories that we store:

  • Past hurts
  • Wounds
  • Rejection
  • Abandonment
  • Invalidation

 

 And especially past memories of abuse:

  • Sexual
  • Physical
  • Verbal
  • Emotional
  • Spiritual

 

 

GODS PLAN:

BLESSING (Godly home)

THRIVING

NURTURED, LOVED, BLESSED, ENCOURAGED, BELIEVED IN

Produces:

TRUTH-BASED BELIEFS

and

KINGDOM IDENTITY

Births:

 KINGDOM DESTINY, SUCCESS, FRUITFULNESS

 

 

SATANS PLAN:

CURSING

SURVIVING

 

ABUSE, NEGLECT, REJECTION, ABANDONMENT, UNLOVED

Produces:

SHAME-BASED, CORE LIE-BASED BELIEFS

and

SHAME-BASED CORE IDENTITY

Births:

LACK OF KINGDOM PURPOSE AND DESINTY-DIMINISHED, FRUITLESS LIFE

 

SOLUTION:

HEALING- Mind Renewing Healing Prayer

 

 

Repentance is not what’s needed here.

 

Do you still feel guilt and shame? Healing is needed.

 

THE PROBLEM:

The LIE:

We internalize lie-based beliefs as we interpret life events in childhood.

Those lies are REINFORCED and strengthened throughout our life.

 

HOW DO WE FIND THE LIES?

Healing process brings a Spirit-led revelation of truth through Mind Renewing Healing Prayer.

 

See other videos on Strongholds.

 

Healing Diagram

Mind Renewing Healing Prayer Process.

 

For more information:

 Book (Available on Amazon) Link: amzn.to/2lcNUVi

 Jesus, Healer of the Brokenhearted, Frank Meadows

 

WEBSITE: www.meadowshealingprayercenter.com

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