What Does Biblical Dating Look like?

Making wise choices in dating relationships is a key to avoiding a lifetime of heartache. Who you marry will affect a huge percentage of your future. It is therefore crucial to take the time to find out what the Bible says about relationships and dating and use this wisdom to make good choices.

2 Corinthians 6:14 is clear about what kinds of relationships should be avoided. “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” It may be tempting to consider a date that is not a Christian if that person is kind, or giving, or displays attributes that seem Christ-like. But if this person does not have a mind that has been transformed to the mind of Christ because of salvation, seeing eye-to-eye will be like communicating with someone on another planet. The change that comes when we submit to Christ is revolutionary.

We should never date someone unless they can be considered as a potential spouse. Dating for “just fun” without considering the future is careless and lacking in wisdom. Our hearts cannot be trusted to not become attracted to someone just because our mind may see trouble. Do not set yourself up for heartache by becoming emotionally attached to someone who won’t make a good spouse.

What should we look for in a date? Foremost, this person should not only confess to being a Christian, but exhibit Christ-like qualities. Making a salvation decision does not guarantee that someone has mature walk with God. Does this person display the fruit of the spirit? Does this person make God first priority in his life? These are clues that will tell us if this person is aligned rightly in his or her faith.

Most importantly, we must take every opportunity to seek God in our decisions. Holy Spirit promises to lead us unto all truth, it says in John 16:13. As believers who are walking with God, reading His word, and communing with Him, we should know His voice. In John 10:27, Jesus tells us that his sheep hear His voice.” It is important to follow peace as we seek God’s will. If we cannot hear for ourselves, seek out a trusted mentor or friend who can hear God. Make sure to have input from others before dating someone. Seek God and follow peace.