Keys to Your Divine Promotion

God’s plan for us is that we move from glory to glory, according to 2 Corinthians 3:18. As we grow and mature, God will move us into new assignments, or promote us. There are keys to divine promotion.

David is an example of a man who was promoted. David was the youngest child to Jesse, who tended the sheep for his family. His father did not even summon him when Samuel came looking for the son who would be king. David learned many lessons during his life. He learned to protect the sheep from wild animals. In his days of shepherding he learned how to abide in God’s presence. In time, he moved to the palace where he played his harp to soothe King Saul. He learned how to minister to the king even during fits of rage. When Goliath began to threaten the Israelites, David refused to listen to the taunts of the enemy and went out to defy him. David defeated Goliath with the 5 smooth stones and the power of God. He ended up in the wilderness running for his life as Saul tried to kill him. Even during this wilderness time, David refused to retaliate when he had the opportunity.

Eventually, David became King, just as Samuel prophesied. But in every season of his life, David overcame many obstacles and matured and grew in God. Even when David sinned against God, he repented and came back into right standing with God. God called David a man after His own heart. We can see from David’s life that as he overcame in each season, God promoted him to his next season.

Another key to promotion is humility. James 4:10 says that if we humble ourselves before the Lord, He will exalt us. That means that even as we have successes in life, it is important to stay humble and let God will promote us. Trying to promote ourselves is ineffective. If we manage to manipulate circumstances to promote ourselves, we will have to continue to use the same tactics to keep ourselves there. It is important to trust that God will promote us at the right time, when we’re ready. Proverbs 3:5,6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”

Promotion comes when God determines that we are ready. As we are faithful to do what He has given to us each day, He is ever molding and creating us into the image of Christ. It is our Christ-likeness that He is looking for in us. Psalms 1:1-3 illustrates this well. “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers.” Our prosperity and promotion are connected to the way we conduct our lives. When our hearts are pleasing to God, He can trust us with more. Psalm 20:4 says, “May He grant you according to your heart’s desire and fulfill all your purpose.”  As we walk through his process of preparation, our hearts are changed and made ready for promotion. And as we wait upon Him, He promises to renew our strength so that we will be ready for the next season.

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Is it possible to heal from childhood sexual abuse?

Today, people everywhere are struggling through life with damaged emotions and broken hearts. They’ve endured a lot of negative things, causing untold damage that needs to be dealt with. But too often, these hurts are simply swept under the rug in an attempt to make them go away.

Through my own life experiences, and from helping others through this process, I’ve discovered that although God wants to help those who really want emotional healing, there are some very important steps these individuals must take for themselves. If you want to receive emotional healing, one of the first steps you must take is to face the truth. You can’t be set free while living in denial. You can’t pretend that certain negative things didn’t happen to you.

I’ve come to realize that we’re experts at building walls and stuffing things into dark corners, pretending they never happened.

I was four years old when I was sexually abused from a fifteen year old boy. It was a dark memory that I kept suppressed for about twelve years, until I confronted the truth of what happened. For years I made myself believe that it must have been a bad dream or even something I saw on tv by accident as a kid. I finally made the decision to ask my mom about this memory that I couldn’t shake.

Why don’t we want to bring things like that into the open? We’re afraid of what people will think. We’re afraid of being rejected, misunderstood, or unloved by those we care about or that they might have a different opinion of us if they really knew all about us. The feeling of unworthiness and filth is overwhelming. That’s what the devil wants, he wants you to keep quiet. His goal is to make you feel alone and unloved. That is why it is vital for you to speak up and allow light into the darkness.

There’s something about verbalizing it to another person that does wonders for us, but use wisdom. Choose someone you know you can trust. Be sure that by sharing your story with someone else, you don’t simply put your burden on that individual’s shoulders. Also, don’t go trying to dig up old hurts and offenses that have been buried and forgotten.

When I finally worked up the courage to share with someone what had happened early in my life, I actually began shaking and crying in fear. It was an emotional reaction to the things I’d kept buried within me for so long. Now when I talk about my past, it’s as though I’m talking about somebody else’s problems. Because I’ve been healed and restored, my past doesn’t bother me anymore.

Nobody can be set free from a problem until they’re willing to admit they have one.

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Even though our problems may have been brought upon us because of something done against our will, we have no excuse for allowing the problem to persist, grow and even take control over our entire life. Our past experiences may have made us the way we are, but we don’t have to stay that way. We can take the initiative by taking positive steps to change things, and most importantly we can ask for God’s help.

I encourage you today to get whatever hurt you have out in the open. Find someone to pray with. Don’t just let them pray, pray yourself for your own healing out loud. Remember the devil wants you to stay quiet. Fight it with God!

Face the truth—it can be the beginning of a happier life!

Shame and Self-Contempt: Embracing God’s View of Me Instead of the Lies

Shame is an insidious liar, hiding in memories and early foundational messages sent to us by our enemy even as children. Shame whispers to us that we are a mistake, without value, marred and damaged property. This message can derail us from reaching our fullest potential and from walking in true freedom.

God’s intent for us is that when we fail or sin, our heart will feel the guilt of unrighteous behavior, causing us to seek cleansing and giving us motivation to make things right. Jesus made a way for us to be cleansed by His blood, to receive His forgiveness, and to be restored into fellowship with Him. 

Shame however, causes us to hide. Shame makes us feel unworthy, without value and beyond the reach of love. But shame is a liar. This message that has been imprinted on our soul can be difficult to discern, but it is one of the biggest lies that the enemy sends us. Shame can come as a result of rejection and abandonment, especially when parents or persons of authority in our lives do not fulfill our greatest needs of nurture and bonding. It can come in upon abuse, neglect, or dysfunction.  When we experience severe trauma, especially at a young age, we may subconsciously come to the conclusion that the fault is ours, due to some flaw in us.

There is a way to be set free from shame. God always has a path to freedom. The way to freedom is to partner with Holy Spirit and the word of God to reveal where the lie became our reality. Holy Spirit can take us to a memory where we received that lie, and we can use the word of God to replace that lie with truth.  As we recall those painful moments, we can ask Him to reveal His truth. We must receive that truth and allow it to replace what the enemy planted in us. It is the truth that we receive and apply that will make us free. God desires that we live in the freedom for which He paid dearly. Cooperate with Holy Spirit and be set free!


Additional Resources on this topic:

Jesus, Healer of the Brokenhearted by Frank Meadows


By Keiko Chibana-Shinn | Rediscovering Prayer

There will be swarms of living things wherever the water of this river flows. Fish will abound in the Dead Sea, for its waters will become fresh. Life will flourish wherever this water flows. Ezekiel 47:9

We all live by faith. We wake up every morning with some level of faith that takes us out of bed and makes us believe that we will make it through another day. It’s as if we each have our own well, where we draw out the source of energy, hope, and love we need to make life happen. For some, the well is half empty, for others half full, for some the well is overflowing and to others, their elected cisterns are so dried up that the well itself is found crumbling from excessive drought.

The question of faith is not whether it exists or not. For everyone believes in something. Even the faithless have faith in their faithlessness. The question is, How does one qualify faith? Faith feeds identity. Therefore your faith has the ability to define your identity and the quality of your character.

The Word of God defines faith in saying:

Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1

Anyone who holds this definition of faith will see successes in this life. It’s a truth that can affect the trajectory of our lives in the natural plane as well as in the supernatural. To have faith is to have confidence. Faith is meant to be unleashed without any limitations. However, it can be a safe feeling to remain confident in your own strength and abilities rather than trusting Jesus to be your true source of faith and confidence. It’s easier to set limits on your faith. But faith has a completely different look and feel when you truly believe that Jesus has called you out of the boat to walk on water.

Jesus says:

…whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” Jn. 4:14

Streams of living water belong to Jesus. He is not only the source of strength in our lives but He himself is the well of salvation. The faith He imparts saves us from every demonic power and all influence of evil desires. The power that makes abundant life possible is eternally sustained by His Spirit. We are made in the image of God and therefore have the capacity to sustain everlasting water, meaning we can behold His grace and Spirit. It is by faith that we draw out His grace and move in step with His Spirit for the journey ahead of us.

For this very reason, we are to align our perspective to that of Jesus’ knowing that every trial is an opportunity to build our character through His abundant grace imparted to us. This is what ultimately builds a character of faith that unleashes the promises God has made in the here and now. For we are a new creation in Christ. The old is done away with, the new has come. Let the everlasting waters continually flow in and through your identity as a child of God. For there is now no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus. His grace is more than sufficient for us. For whoever activates faith in Christ for daily living, wears His splendor for all to see.

Jesus has the power and authority to examine the health of your character. If willing, He can transform our character by the strength of His Spirit to support the type of faith that can raise the dead to life, heal the sick, resurrect dreams, and restore the brokenhearted. To have faith in Christ is to also have the character to withstand the effects of disillusionment, cynicism, and setbacks. Let us add to our faith goodness, knowledge, self-control, perseverance, godliness, mutual affection, and a faith characterized by love that covers a multitude of sin. The evil one will not prevail because your character has no entry point for his schemes to succeed. Jesus will always have the final Word.

We are called to be confident in that He who began a good work in us will complete it. He wants us to add to our character a fierce determination to persevere, to commit, and maintain a spirit of constancy in the plans, giftedness, and purposes God has placed in our hearts to execute. Let renewed passion, the eternal waters surge up from within so that the character of your faith says “Yes!” and “Amen!” in response to what Jesus has already promised you. Let the  prayer of our hearts be:

In times of hardship, in times of momentary drought, fatigue, and uncertainty may You, Lord, instill in me an unbreakable character to say “I stand with You til the end. Make my heart to be faithful as yours. So come. I receive You as my fountain. I release my man-made cistern that cannot hold your eternal waters. I renounce the wanderer spirit within me, the idols, excuses, and distracted living. I take hold of your passion for life and choose to keep my focus on you. Let your everlasting waters flow through me. For wherever the river flows, everything will flourish. Everything will flourish within me. For Your glory in Jesus’ name. Amen!

Additional Verses: Jer. 2:13; 2 Cor. 3:17–18; Matt. 14:29; Jn. 10:10; 1 Jn. 5:4; Gen. 1:27; 1 Thess. 5:15; 2 Cor. 5:17; Ro. 8:1; 2 Pe. 1:5-7; 1 Pe. 4:8; 2 Pe. 1:4; 2 Cor. 12:9

Releasing the Power of God

God has mandated that we walk in the power and authority that He gave us when we became His ambassadors in Christ.  Genesis describes how God created man in His image, and tasked him with stewarding the earth realm. Genesis 1:28 says, “God blessed them and told them, ‘Multiply and fill the earth and subdue it.’” When Jesus paid the price for our freedom from sin and death, He charged us to continue His work on the earth. Matthew 10:1 describes this charge. “Jesus called His twelve disciples to him and gave them authority to cast out evil spirits and to heal every kind of disease and illness.” Jesus gave believers a mandate to continue to establish His kingdom here on earth, and He gave us His authority to do so.

How do we come into agreement with this mandate? We must become a conduit of the power of God through Holy Spirit. Paul spoke about this in Romans 15. “I have won them over by the miracles done through me as signs from God- all by the power of God’s Spirit.” Paul was able to convince the gentiles of the Good News of Jesus Christ by the signs and wonders that followed him.

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Jesus began to speak of this mandate before He went to the cross. He spoke over His disciples, releasing His authority to them. We see this in Luke 9:1. “One day, Jesus called together His twelve apostles and gave them power and authority to cast out demons and to heal all diseases. Then He sent them out to tell everyone about the coming of the Kingdom of God and to heal the sick.” Matthew 10:8 said, “heal the sick, raise the dead, cure those with leprosy, and cast out demons. Give as freely as you have received.”  It is clear that Jesus’ power did not cease when He returned to heaven, but He gave the command to continue the work that He began and equipped us with His authority and power to do so.

As believers in Jesus Christ, we can access all that He paid for us to walk in. As we extend our faith, we can connect with the power of God to see deliverance, healing and miracles. In Ephesians 1:19, Paul urges us to embrace this truth. “I pray that you will understand the incredible greatness of his power for us who believe him. This is the same power that raised Christ from the dead and seated Him in the place of honor at God’s right hand in the heavenly realms.” This is resurrection power! As we believe, it will be done according to His word. In Mark 16:20, we see that the disciples believed Jesus and began to fulfill His mandate. “And the disciples went everywhere and preached, and the Lord worked through them, confirming what they said by many miraculous signs.” It is God’s plan that we walk in His power and authority and bring His kingdom to manifest on earth as it is in heaven.

How do I know God’s Will for My Life?

Knowing the will of God for our lives is a huge priority for many of us. We may be able to avoid many pitfalls and struggles if we can walk in God’s will. How are we to know what this is?

Knowing God is key to knowing how He operates. It is vital that we read His word to know His character and His ways. Satan would like us to believe that God is not good and that He is not present, or that He doesn’t notice us. But the truth is, God is a very present Father. Deuteronomy 3:16 tells us that God will never leave us or forsake us. His word also tells us in James 1:17 that every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change. He is present and He is good.

God also tells us in His word that He has good plans for us. Jeremiah 29:11 tells us that He has good plans for our future, plans to prosper us. He has made a way for us to have a life of hope and not evil. Knowing this can keep us aligned with truth, which defeats the lies of the enemy over us. We must guard our hearts and thoughts so that we will stay in this agreement.

As we pray and declare in alignment with these truths, we begin to have the heart of God for our lives. In Daniel 9, we see that Daniel was praying God’s will for his life and for the people. First, Daniel approached God by acknowledging God’s character. In verse 4 Daniel declares, “Oh Lord, the great and awesome God, who keeps His covenant and extends lovingkindness toward those who love Him and keep His commandments.”  Daniel knew the power and character of God.  Daniel then repents for the sins of the people, who had been rebellious and wicked. This is an important key. If we are in sin, it hinders are ability to hear God clearly. Daniel knew it was important to be in right standing with God when asking for Him to move. Once Daniel repented on their behalf, he began to petition (request) God for favor and help. He appealed to God’s great mercy and love, and asked God for what was on his heart. 

As we read the word of God, we can use it as a plumb line to determine if our desires align with His will and character. Once we do this, we can pray that not our will be done, but God’s will be done. Jesus taught His disciples to pray in Matthew 6:10. “Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” We must pray and believe that we are aligned with His Kingdom and His will, and then stand in faith to see it come to pass. As we align with Him, God will partner with us to accomplish His will in us and in the earth realm.


Salvation: A New Beginning

It’s Time for Your New Beginning!

Salvation is a fresh start to anyone who will receive Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. Jesus came down from Heaven, in the form of Man, taught us the ways of Heaven, died on a Cross for our sins, and then rose again on the 3rd day.

It’s amazing, the love that the Father has for each one of us. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God’s hands. You have been chosen and predestined since before the beginning of time. It doesn’t matter what kind of life you lived as long as you’re willing to come wholeheartedly to God, repent of your past mistakes and take on a new life in Christ.

It is the blood of Jesus that washes us clean of sin. His sacrifice tore the veil that stood between Father God and us — His Creation. We were meant to live in personal relationship with God the Father, to be able to approach Him in full confidence as sons and daughters of God. If you need that relationship, come before God today.

Who Can Be Saved? The Bible says that “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.” (Romans 10:9-10)

Are you ready to receive Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior today?

Salvation Prayer:
Dear Lord Jesus, I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with your precious blood. I invite you into my heart and life. From this day forward, I make you the High Priest of my life and my Lord and Savior. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Help Your Child Cope with Pain and Loss

As a parent, it’s painful to watch your child experience hurts and disappointments. Even though you would like to spare your child from difficulty, it’s not possible to keep him/her from the cruel realities of life. During childhood, your child will experience typical losses, such as losing a pet, being separated from loved ones, moving, or being excluded from a birthday party. Sometimes, a child can experience very deep hurts, resulting in great pain and suffering.

If you try to protect your child from all pain and loss, he/she will not be prepared to face difficult situations as adults. It’s better to allow your child to feel emotions and work through pain and loss when the issues are not serious. As parents, you are there to provide comfort and support during these times and help your child develop coping skills that will help in adulthood.

When we think of bigger losses, we typically think of death, illness, and divorce. But there are other types of painful changes experienced by children and families. Any kind of change can create a feeling of loss, but some losses are more intense than others, causing an adult or child to feel grief. Grief, a deep sadness or sorrow, is one of life’s most painful experiences.

When loss occurs, all members of a family are affected, whether directly or indirectly. A child experiences grief as intensely as adults, but often do not have words to express his/her feelings. A child can begin to act out during times of grief, so it is important to observe your child’s behavior and watch for signs of deep sorrow. Even if there are unspoken feelings in the home, children, including infants, can sense deep sadness.

Parents often become consumed with their own needs during the grieving process and lack the energy to comfort and support their child. A child can become the object of adult frustration and tension and grieving can alter the normal functioning of a family. When there is a lack of parent attention, as well as changes in routines and schedules, a child can become fearful of the future.

The Swiss psychiatrist, Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, identified 5 distinct stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Children and adults go through these five stages in the grieving process, following a loss. The way an individual moves through the stages and the length of time it takes depends on the person.

Below is a chart detailing the most common responses of children and adults to grief. These behaviors are normal, but if they become too intense or last too long, one should seek professional help. It generally takes an adult or child an average of 2 years to recover from a loss. Again, it depends on the individual.


It is important to recognize your child’s pain and find ways to support and comfort him/her in times of grief. Below are some suggestions to assist you in helping your child process a loss. • Take care of yourself as a parent.

• Communicate with your child. Instead of avoiding a discussion, provide an honest explanation as to what is happening. Only give information that meets the child’s level of understanding.

• Read developmentally appropriate books that will deal with an issue, such as death, moving, or divorce.

• Provide your child with ways of expressing himself/herself through play, story writing, Play-­‐ Doh, puppets, or drawing.

• Be available to spend one-­‐on-­‐one time with your child. Play, laugh, or share an activity or hobby together.

• Listen.

• Give lots of love and affection, such as hugging, holding, and soothing.

• Keep a stable, predictable environment by keeping normal routines, such as mealtimes, bedtimes, school schedules, or activities.

• Maintain family rituals and traditions, such as a movie night, pizza night, holidays, and birthdays.

• Develop an outside support system by connecting with caregivers, extended relatives or friends.

• Maintain consistent guidelines and limits to maintain a feeling of safety for a child.

• Reduce outside stress.

• Be sensitive and patient. Seek help from a professional who can provide the resources to help your child and family if the grieving process seems abnormally long or intense.

The professionals below can provide help as needed.



Professional counselor or therapist

School Counselor

Minister, priest, rabbi

Church, synagogue

Social worker

Service agency

Support groups

Parent Education Groups

Remind your child how much God loves him/her and that He sees and understands his/her sadness. A grieving child needs to be told often that he/she is loved and valued. Assure him/her that you are there to provide protection and security during this time. Your child will need to have abundant nurture and affection from you.

Try Something New

Talk with your child about God’s faithfulness.  Teach your child to go to God’s Word for help.  Pray with your child about the things that concern him/her.  Memorize verses together to remind each another of God’s care.

Verses for Encouragement

God understands our broken hearts.

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.

(Psalm 34:18)

God is our help.

God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. ( Psalms 46:1)

Do not be afraid.

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.  (Isaiah 41:10)

Don’t worry. Pray.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 

(Philippians 4:6-7)

Conflict: Understand How to Handle It

When I heard that I had a predictable way that I react to conflict, I scoffed. How could an assessment determine how I handle conflict? According to a friend, the Thomas-Kilmann Instrument (TKI) identifies a person’s default conflict response. Because I was skeptical, he challenged me to take it and decide for myself. After I took it, I did not believe the results; so, I started assessing my responses in each conflict situation. Well, I was surprised, because the instrument was very accurate.

Assertiveness and Cooperation
According to Thomas and Kilmann, each person responds to conflict in varying degrees of assertiveness and cooperation. Assertiveness represents the amount of decisiveness, forcefulness, and intensity a person utilizes during conflict situations. Cooperation measures how much assistance, support, and teamwork a person is willing to contribute to conflict resolution. A person can span the gamut from being neither assertive nor cooperative to being fully assertive and cooperative. Based on the mixture of these two attitudes, five different responses are possible: Avoiding, Competing, Accommodating, Compromising, and Collaborating. Most people have a combination of two or three conflict resolution modes.

A person who is neither assertive nor cooperative in conflict situations exhibits an Avoiding response to conflict. This person chooses to remove him/herself from the conflict and let others resolve the conflict.

A person who is fully assertive with no cooperation exhibits the Competing conflict response. This person wants to win and is willing to do anything to beat the other person.

The accommodating response is used by those who are fully cooperative but have no assertiveness. They want the conflict to go away and are willing to give away whatever is necessary to accommodate the other person.

The compromising attitude is utilized by someone who is somewhat assertive and somewhat cooperative. This person is willing to give a little if the other person will give a little.

The collaborator is fully assertive and fully cooperative. This individual wants everyone to win and is willing to work until everyone is satisfied.

The TKI (Thomas Kilmann Instrument)
The assessment is a simple self-test that can be completed online or on paper. It takes about 15 minutes to complete and the results are instant. It is available in many languages.

Questions for Further Thought:
1. When you reflect on how you respond to conflict, what do you believe is/are your primary modes of conflict response?
2. When would your normal response be appropriate?
3. When would your normal response be inappropriate?
4. How do you want God to respond to you when you are in conflict with Him?


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Raise Children of Character

You are Your Child’s Personal Trainer: Raising Children of Character

A personal trainer is a fitness professional who instructs and suggests an exercise program to meet the goals of clients.  A trainer critiques a client’s strengths and weaknesses, develops a plan with the client for improvement, provides feedback, and holds the client accountable to his/her fitness goals.

Make a list of character qualities that you would like your child to develop.

The Bible describes our parental role of training our child by recounting the story of Abraham in Genesis 18:19.

I have singled him (Abraham) out so that he will direct his sons and their families to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just.  Then I will do for Abraham all that I have promised.

Your goal is to train your child to do what is right and just, based on God’s principles.

It is important to have a plan and be intentional in helping your child develop good character.  Your child will be blessed if you teach him/her to follow the Lord’s paths.

  • Plan a set time to teach your child God’s principles; during mealtimes, before bed, or first thing in the morning.  If you are separated from your child, teach him/her through e-mail, phone calls, text messages, or letters.
  • Listen to your child’s questions.
  • Understand what your child knows and understands about a topic.
  • Use the principles of Scripture as your guide in helping your child choose the correct thinking or right path.
  • Help your child understand how to apply the Scriptures to his/her life.
  • Instill in your child a habit of turning to the Bible for answers to life’s questions.
  • Use teachable moments throughout the day.
  • Follow the example of Deuteronomy 6:6-7.  Talk about God’s ways throughout your day.

And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today.   Repeat them again and again to your children.   Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up.

  • Use experiences that you and your child encounter to reinforce an idea that you have previously taught him/her.

From the family archives: 

When our daughter was 5 years old,  we went into a small store to do some shopping.  Upon returning home, my daughter proudly showed me a pretty bracelet.  I was horrified!!  She had taken it without our paying for it.  We had been talking about honesty and right here was a “teachable moment!” Even though it was inconvenient and embarrassing for me, we returned to the store in order for her to return the bracelet.  My daughter explained to the cashier that she had taken it without our paying.  The sales lady was very kind, took the bracelet back, and thanked our daughter for her honesty.  That day, my daughter had an experience which reinforced our discussions about the need to be honest and live according to God’s principles.

  • Find the right time.
  • If you see an opportunity to teach, but don’t have time at the moment, postpone the discussion until later.
  • If you or your child are too emotionally upset, delay the discussion until you are both calm.
  • If you need to correct your child, but are in the presence of many people, take your child to a quiet place and talk about the misbehavior.

Use Media as a teaching tool.

  • Negative and corrupted values are constantly presented to your child.
  • Talk with your child about TV shows, advertising, movies, the Internet, music, video games, magazines, and signage.  Discuss how media lines up with Christian values.

Use conflicts between family and friends to show your child what to do in a   particular situation.

  • Use travel time to talk with your child.
  • Talk about something you see “out your window”, such as litter, inconsiderate drivers, or the homeless.
  • Talk about school-related topics or other topics that concern your child.
  • Reinforce positive behavior that you notice in your child.
  • Compliment specifically on your child’s honesty, kindness, or good habits.  Your child will tend to repeat those things that please you.
  • Remember that it takes 6 positive comments to cancel 1 negative comment.
  • Pray with your child about the things that concern him/her.
  • Your child is most receptive to your teaching at bedtime.  Use this relaxed time to pray with your child about things that worry him/her.

Plan family activities that teach good character.

  • Do community service.
  • Perform an act of kindness.  Write a note or make a picture to thank someone.
  • Read books on character.
  • Play  “What Should You Do? Make a set of cards describing real-life situations and ask your child what he/she would do. Talk about your child’s response to the situation.  Lead your child in discovering God’s path.
  • Play  “How Does It Feel?  Have conversations about how characters feel in real-life situations, movies or books.

Your turn!  List more family activities that would develop good character in your child.

You need to live your own life with godly character as an example to your child. You are your child’s most important role model and a powerful influence.  Be clear about what your values and beliefs are and pass them onto your child.

As a parent:

  • Read God’s Word.  The book of Proverbs is a practical guide and provides wisdom in daily living.
  • Guard your heart and look at your motivations carefully.
  • Confess your sins to God and others.
  • Pray with a friend about your spiritual and emotional needs.
  • Find someone or a community group who will hold you accountable.
  • Pray for wisdom.
  • Pray with a friend for each other’s children.
  • Attend church.

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Ask the Lord to give you opportunities and wisdom to teach your child to do what is right.  In your own life, model the habit of turning to God’s Word for answers to life’s questions and commit yourself to obeying God.

Verses for Encouragement

Ask the Lord for wisdom in teaching your child.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.  (James 1:5)

Be determined to live according to God’s Word.

How can a young man (young woman) keep his/her way pure?  By living according to your word.  (Psalms 119:9)